If you were to reduce the argument of the same-sex community down to its core you would find the word equality. This word is all too familiar to us in this country given our history of racial discrimination. The homosexual community even attempts to use the history of Jim Crow laws and racism against blacks to bolster their position as another minority being discriminated against. Far be it for me to marginalize the hate or discrimination gays may face, but let’s be real. There have never been gay water fountains, or “straight people only” bathrooms. I have never seen homosexuals by law have to step off the sidewalk because straight couples were walking by, or get their food handed to them out of the back door of a restaurant because straight men and women were being served in the main dining hall. It seems the inequality lies in the comparison gays are attempting to make between themselves and blacks. First, discrimination by race is inherently more likely because race can be determined by sight with very little to no knowledge required about someone otherwise. Sexual orientation however, requires a level of intimate knowledge about an individual. Therefore a gay person could choose to conceal their sexual preference and evade discrimination altogether in many cases. Blacks never had such a luxury. This matter of choice also extends to another point concerning gays using the history of blacks. Never have blacks or any race for that matter ever chosen their color. They were born that way! I know there are those proponents in the gay community who would say the same, but in the words of one anonymous black woman in a public debate about this subject, “You have never seen an ex-black.” Despite these glaring differences the debate continues with equality at its foundation.
But what equality are they aiming for and at what cost to society? How can you give equal ground to two different unions with vast inherent and irreversible inequities between them as it pertains to the contribution they make to society? One being the ability to produce offspring, which is not insignificant since the perpetuation of the human race is wholly dependent on it. And what about the values that have been passed down over thousands of years from the incentives that having children creates. The incentive to work, save, sacrifice and pass on some degree of assets to ones offspring has been the life blood of civilization as men/women desire their children to live better than they did. I know of no stronger incentive for good than the look in a child’s eye who is wholly dependent on you to provide his/her welfare. We must face the fact that we live in a world held together by the values and motivation we inherit from our families. So what is the cost of changing all the social structures that have been suited for the marriage of men and women, and the values it creates, to include a union that has no inherent ability to contribute the same incentives to society?
Almost no one will argue that Christianity is to be credited with the way in which we think about family today. Consequently it is Christianity that is in the cross-hairs of the homosexual community. Many of them claim that the biblical model of marriage is restricting, and obsolete. They say the exclusivity that the Bible encourages one to have with their spouse of the opposite sex is antiquated and not in step with the times. But if this is true then it begs to question, why do they want to get married?